বাচ্চাদের শৈশবে মারধোর করলে পরবর্তী জীবনে সম্পর্ক বিষাক্ত হয়ে উঠতে পারে: গবেষণা
যে শিশুরা বলেছিল যে তারা ছোটবেলায় মার খেয়েছে, তাদের মধ্যে অবসাদের শিকার হবার সম্ভাবনা ১.৪ গুণ বেশী, আরও ১.৯৮ গুুণ বেশীর মধ্যে অসামাজিক হয়ে ওঠার প্রবণতা দেখা গেছে এবং আরও ২.৩১ গুণ বেশীর মধ্যে স্কিজোটাইপ্যাল পারসোন্যালিটি ডিসঅর্ডার দেখা দিতে পারে।
Beating children is not good for them. The flogging is worse. However, many native mothers and fathers take oath to teach 'discipline' to children in this way. And the reason for this is that they also whipped whips in their childhood. Well, if the kids are fooling you, then if you decide to whip or spit, then here's something for your consideration.
The Journal of Medicine in the Journal of Medicine, Pediatrics, recently published a research paper. The main point of this study is that, after being beaten in childhood, after the dating or marriage, violence takes place, and this discovery is applicable to all levels of society.
Science agrees that beating children is not a solution
Researchers interviewed 758 men and women aged 19 and 20. A question was asked to know who were beaten for their childhood. Then they were asked whether they had acted violently during a dating session. It was found that most of those who had been beaten during childhood were violent while dating.
Another study, published by the American Association of Pediatrics, conducted searches on 35,000 people under 20 years of age in 2004 and 2005. Seen in
'... The children who said that they had been beaten in their childhood, the probability of becoming obese is 1.4 times greater, more 1.98 have been found to be anti-social in nature and seen more than 231 times Skzotipal personality disorder. can give.'
All these are aiming at a decision - no matter how much you believe in your ritual to govern your child, it is likely that sixteen people are affected by the rattan that your child
Negative on. And that's why the American Association strongly condemns to beat pediatricians.
The boys beat up in this country
Killing and whipping of children is never clearly condemned by any occupied government person in this country . It is often used in home and education places. A standard code of conduct should be formulated in this regard. However, many children grew up in an abusive adult form. This aggression is not public, however, we can draw a relationship with growing domestic violence.
In 2016, 2811 private protection orders were ordered in the court. This can happen only when envy becomes so intolerable that you have to go through the legal process. Of these, 76% were filed by women and according to a report by AWork.com, only 4 out of 4 women actually sued domestic violence. So the actual number can be far more than that.
How do you rule your child by killing?
The result of all the mother-babies final results is a decent child. There are many ways to do this. If you are beaten, the child is afraid of the child, so your child may stop doing the evil thing because he is afraid of the pain of the mother, not because he saw any other reason for not doing dummy. Today, throughout the world, society wants to get rid of the violence of children and explain their actions and beating children is declared illegal in 32 countries today.
How to rule kids without being beaten here.
- Logic This is helpful for children older than 4 years. During that time, the concept of the outcome evolves, and that is why they respond wonderly. So, take advantage of the opportunity and let them know that they have reached such fierce anger, now it is big enough and just doing this is not the only way to express their emotions. If they express their pain by saying better, you can understand and correct the matter.
- Time limit It is suitable for children over 3 years old. Sometimes, when the child is tired or he gets hungry, he wants to express himself strongly. Even if they get lethargic, they will not eat it unnaturally. So they have to give some time. Put them in front of a wall and stay there for only 5 minutes. This is not a punishment but rather a bit of time to calm them, so there is no shame in it.
- wait. This is for children over 1.5 years old. Sometimes they only have money to show a fierce anger. Just wait for what you have to do. Since no response is found, they can see the consequences of their work. See it this way: The fierce anger does not reflect your child's nurturing skills, and you have the right to hear him.
O mothers, do not kill your children for God's love. It will destroy their creativity and obey their obedient orders. They're growing up, it's not going to help them in their life and careers, is not it?