কবে ভারতীয়রা বুঝবেন যে একটি শিশুকে চকোলেট না দিয়েও ভালবাসা জানাবার অসংখ্য উপায় আছে
আমি বারণ করা সত্বেও আমার মেয়ে সব রকম চিনি দেওয়া মিষ্টি গোগ্রাসে গিলতে শুরু করল। সে আমাকে বলে, "যখন আমার দাদু-দিদা খেতে বলছে, তখন তুমি কেন বারণ করছ"।
“Your mother is not here, do not eat quickly”
I went in and hid in my house and heard that my mother-in-law is telling the girl.
Due to the Marwari, the food is our highest priority. I got married in a large joint family where discussions about food were never ended. If I did not eat all the menus in the home menu, then it was fed on the basis of various arguments, forcing it to be cooked because it was a nice cooked and very tasty. This was a very long time, on my first wedding, my weight increased 12 kg. These things continued to repeat until it became enough.
Finally, I became cruel and repeatedly reminded of my weight gain and started saying ‘No’ firmly. It worked and gradually allowed me to eat as much as I would like to eat.
This kind of insistence is known as ‘Manavar’ in the Marwar community, where the guest or the stranger is lodged in the house, and especially the Marwari handicrafts are rich in spices, oily and sugar sweet.
Love for food, love for food!
This tradition had gone to my daughter, whom she used to give her grandfather with chocolate, pastries, cakes, cookies, etc.
Whenever they go out or visit, they come with chocolates, sweets, and these bring them. Despite my ban, my daughter started to swallow all kinds of sweet sugar. He tells me, “Why are you refusing when my grandfather is asking to eat?”
At the age of 6, she weighed heavily, and as well as for the ignorance of childhood doctor cheeks My father-in-law and husband have been suffering from diabetes for a number of years, so a cold stream flows over my headpiece.
I know that either late or early, my daughter will also earn it. I told the girl about the bad habits of sugar with more sugar and how it destroys our body structure and health.
It was a challenge for me because none of the families supported me. Everyone thought I was behaving cruelly with a poor girl and she was deprived of her childhood joy. Nobody could see the larger picture.
Finally, I could explain to my daughter and urged everyone in the family to refrain from giving such food. But things went unnoticed by my unknown, and he continued to give chocolate every day. So I made a plan with my daughter.
We fixed the goal of eating his chocolate on weekends only and after my permission. It worked, he lost a lot of weight and eventually he saw the change in his body. Now when someone gives him sugar-related food, he is saying ‘no’ to himself.
Different ways to express your love for the kids
I understand that every person is different and everyone has a personal approach to expressing love and many times they do not realize that it may not be good for a child to tell love in this manner.
So, in such a situation, we should convey it to them and say alternative ways to show love to them so that they do not get angry and the child also gets special love from his grandfather.
I want to tell all the parents, grandparents, friends and family that there is so many ways to give love to a child without giving a sugary food.
Other positive and constructive ways to express our love for children are:
- Giving a gift / reading a book
- Play an indoor / outdoor game with them
- Teach them the value of life and the etiquette
- Providing general knowledge
- Take care of their homework
- Discuss with them about the day.
- To teach them the recitation / verses
- Small children get bathe or water currents with them
- Singing or playing music with them
In today’s context, it is very important for our children to be well-educated and continuously educate the need to remain physically fit. Children are always given highly sugar food and they eat them very happily.
We can help ourselves by being adults, but children need to be controlled by parents. How much is going on in our baby’s stomach, it should also have control.
Finally, children are our future, if we do not help them take health care at this age, they may not have a healthy future. To teach them, there is nothing to say ‘very fast’ or ‘very late’.